In my previous two blogs I wrote about finding a job using a different paradigm and engaging in networking. In this post I will be addressing the style and attitude with which you approach the challenge of finding a job especially in a difficult economic market. I refer to it as a black belt attitude. This attitude not only affects how you approach looking for work, but also impacts how you approach your life.
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In the dictionary under the definition of the word determination a picture of Oprah Gail Winfrey should be shown. I have never been a big fan of Ms Winfrey and have only watched her show a few times. Of course, I read about her, heard about her, and have patients who adore her. So I decided to read read Kitty Kelley’s Oprah: A Biography. It is not an authorized biography; that is, Ms Winfrey did not approve it nor did she agree to be interviewed for it. Ms Kelley interviewed many of Ms Winfrey’s friends, relatives, people who worked for her, and some “anonymous sources.” The author pieced together a picture of Oprah’s life, developed a personality profile, and presents it to the reader to come to his or her opinion about Ms Oprah Winfrey.
Your success depends on how you live the life you choose. First, you must define what is important to you, your values and principles, and then live your life to the best you can by incorporating those values into your everyday life. The degree to which you are able to live this way determines your success. While we cannot choose the cards we are dealt in life, we can choose how we will play those cards.
You are engaged in conversation. Your friend is bemoaning his/her life, career, or other circumstance. As you listen you can see various solutions or possibilities that could effect change. You try to suggest a course of action that could alter their situation. She dismisses your suggestions with a flip “that wouldn’t work.” And then she continues bemoaning her fate.
A man comes into my office despondent. I learn that he is a surgeon, but because of early onset of arthritis he can no longer operate. Another man experiences an accident damaging his fingers and can no longer play the piano; he is a professional musician. A 70 year old man continues to work 60 hours a week afraid to stop because he does not know who he would be without his job. A man loses his job due to the recession. He becomes severely depressed. He defines himself by his ability to bring home a paycheck. He is uncomfortable in social settings because he knows that someone will ask him the big question: “What do you do (for a living)?” When asked, his eyes look downward and he feels embarrassed.
[This is the second part of a two part essay on this blog.]
This struggle for equality and equal opportunity continues today over a half-century later where we still find a disproportionately small number of women in the top echelons of government, as CEOs of major companies, and even as chairs of departments, deans, and presidents in our universities. Nonetheless, women continue to make great strides in gaining autonomy and equality in terms of both power and money. But such hard-earned independence and equality has come with a price; after all, there’s no free lunch!
[This is the first of a two-part essay.]
When I was a boy, male and female roles were defined by gender. There was women’s work and men’s work. Each knew what was expected of them; they each knew their place in society. WWII changed all of that. When the men-folks went off to war, women-folk were supposed to maintain hearth and home. But Uncle Sam needed more able bodies to participate in the war effort, as it was called. Women took on many jobs previously held by men. The Women’s Army Corps (WAC) developed; women became soldiers. Women were asked to participate in the nation’s shipyards. They learned trades previously only open to men. “Rosie the Riveter” became emblematic of the new breed of woman capable of building a battleship.