Posts Tagged ‘Sexuality’
Saturday, October 29th, 2011
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Match.com, J-Date, e-Harmony, Christian Singles. These, and many more, are the portals to the wonderful and terrifying world of Internet dating. Internet dating is a part of contemporary life in the U.S. and around the world. It allows people from around the globe to meet one another virtually. Before the advent of these websites people would meet one another in clubs, bars, lounges and other venues designed for folks looking to connect with one another. In today’s world, one does not have to leave the comforts of home in order have a conversation with a stranger. One can even make visual contact through the likes of video chat, Skype, and other web based video applications.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, living consciously, Personal Growth, Relationships, Sexuality, social issues
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Sunday, October 9th, 2011
I often see young couples, who have been married for a short period of time, lamenting that their marriage has lost its sparkle. They tell me that before they married and for about a year afterwards everything was wonderful. But then they began drifting apart, going through the motions of living together, but without passion. Sex has diminished significantly, talking has been limited, and they have little energy to be with one another at the end of the day. They lost their mojo.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, life changes, life enrichment, Personal Growth, Relationships, Sexuality
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Sunday, September 4th, 2011
I recently saw and enjoyed the movie, “Crazy, Stupid, Love“. In addition to being a delightful story with moments of romance, laughter, and pathos, I found that there was some greater insight that could be distilled if one paid attention. Many men may miss the lessons to be gleaned from this flick. It is more than a piece of fluff.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, men and masculinity, Personal Growth, Relationships, Sexuality
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Tuesday, August 16th, 2011
Recently a couple came in for counseling because their marriage was in trouble. They had been married for four years and haven’t had sexual relations in almost a year. They described their relationship as friendly, but not passionate. A little exploration revealed that he was riddled with resentment at his wife’s lack of responsibility for anything that had to do with the maintenance of their home. He did all of the cooking, shopping, errands, cleaning, etc. The only thing she did was to take care of their pet. The husband felt taken for granted. Both of them had careers, but he worked from home making him more available for household duties.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, life changes, Relationships, Sexuality
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Saturday, August 6th, 2011
Whether golf or sex, it is not the shaft between your legs that matters, it is the grey matter between your ears that counts. I have been a sex therapist for over four decades working with individuals and couples. The most common problem presented by men is erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature or rapid ejaculation (PE), followed by low sexual desire (LSD). Invariably these men have tried all sorts of remedies ranging from use of vasodilators, e.g., Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, to lubricants of various types, or penile injections, as well as a bunch of homeopathic remedies. Once they have tried everything else, they decide in frustration that they should seek professional help in the form of sex therapy or psychotherapy.
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Tags: intimacy, men and masculinity, psychological health, Sexuality
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Sunday, July 10th, 2011
Many of my patients have wondered why they fall in love with someone and then, after a few weeks or months, the passion that they initially felt dissipates and the relationship ends. They become cynical about the prospects of being able to maintain a long-term passionate relationship and wondering whether they will have to settle for a boring relationship. They question whether passion and romance can be sustain over the long haul.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, Personal Growth, psychological health, Relationships, Sexuality
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Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
“I never pay for sex” is a common refrain echoed by men, young and old, through the generations. A 30 year old man was telling me this week that he just signed up for a dating service at a cost of $10,000. He said, “the girls are hot! And ready for a good time.” This is a man who loves to go clubbing and enjoys being part of the “Hollywood scene.” He goes to clubs and buys rounds of Cristal champagne at $1200 or more per bottle. He spends thousands of dollars per year in the quest for the “hot girls” with the prime motive of getting them into bed. I asked him why doesn’t he just go to the nearest five-star hotel cocktail lounge and approach one of the gorgeous ladies at the bar. He said, “they are working girls (i.e., prostitutes); I never pay for sex!”
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality
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Monday, June 20th, 2011
I have often said, aging is on the calendar, youthfulness is a state of mind. We all know people that though they are in their 30s, 40s, or 50s who appear to be much older, not only in looks but in spirit. We experience them as old; and they may describe themselves as old. They might say such things as, “I feel old” or “I am too old for this activity” or “I feel my age.” On the other hand, we also have experienced people who though by calendar standards are in their 60s, 70s, 80s, or even 90s, who we describe as a “young 70 year old” or “80 years young.” These people have a spirit or countenance about them that gives the impression of youthfulness. So what’s up with that? How is that some people are old before their time, while others remain young well into old age?
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Tags: awareness, life changes, life enrichment, Personal Growth, psychological health, self-help, Sexuality
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Friday, May 27th, 2011
There are only three ways in which people legally become family: birth, adoption, or marriage. In limiting the name marriage to a man and a woman, the State has de facto determined who shall and shall not be legally considered family.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality
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