Posts Tagged ‘Sexuality’

Culture and male sexual dysfunction

Monday, May 6th, 2013

DSC_6860In order to fully understand male sexual dysfunction, it is necessary to understand the cultural and social context in which it occurs.

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Let’s talk infidelty

Tuesday, November 13th, 2012

Former head of the CIA General David Patreaus is but the latest public figure to have been discovered to have had an extra marital affair. He joins the ranks of a long list of politicians in the U. S. who have done so, e.g., Arnold Schwarzenegger, Bill Clinton, John Kennedy, to name but a few of the most notable. When we add the list of celebrities to the list of politicians, the numbers are staggering. Public figures involved in extra marital affairs is not a new phenomenon; sex “scandals” extends back throughout history. Because of the expansion of the media over the century we are just becoming more aware of the frequency with which infidelity occurs in our society.

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Lovemaking is like fine dining

Wednesday, October 17th, 2012

Sex is as fundamental to human beings as eating. Desiring food and the need to eat is innate; we are hardwired for it. Similarly, our desire for sexual activity is innate; we are programed to desire sex.

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Sex and Sexuality: Part II Dysfunction & Treatment

Monday, August 27th, 2012

Most sexual dysfunction occurs because of faulty beliefs and attitudes about sexuality, poor habits, ignorance, and early experiences.  There are some sexual dysfunctions that are precipitated by physiological, biological, or chemical factors.  However, all physiological dysfunctions have a psychological component.  When men are unable to obtain or maintain an erection, whether from physiological or psychological causes, they feel inferior, less manly.  When a woman is unable to reach orgasm she feels less feminine.  Therefore, in all cases of sexual dysfunction it is necessary to attend to the psychological aspects of the difficulty and what it means to the individual.

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Sex and Sexuality: Part I

Friday, August 24th, 2012

Despite the fact that we live in the post-Victorian, post-human potential movement, post-free love movement, we are still uncomfortable with the our own sexuality.  One would think that with all of the talk about sex, all of the books written about sex, and all of the movies depicting sexuality, we would finally have reached a point in our evolution where we would be as comfortable talking about and experimenting with sex as we are talking about food, sharing sexual information as readily as we share recipes.  But this is not the case.

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Dating then and now

Tuesday, August 14th, 2012

I have been spending a lot of time with my teenage grandchildren ages 12-19. Among the many topics we have been discussing is dating patterns among teens and how things have changed since my youth.

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You Still Got It! Dating After 60

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

As people live longer and divorce rates increase, there are a great many so-called senior citizens who are seeking relationships. These seniors are comprised of men and women who have experienced the death of a spouse, the end of a marriage, and even a bunch of never-been-marrieds. We are seeing an increasing number of online dating websites and a variety of activities designed to help men and women meet up with one another.

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Is a Happy Ending an Infideltiy?

Friday, July 27th, 2012

A couple came to see me recently precipitated by the wife discovering that her husband had visited a massage parlor where, in an addition to a regular massage, he received what is known in the massage business as a “happy ending”, i.e., the masseuse masturbated him to orgasm.

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A Word About Online Dating and Dating Services

Sunday, July 15th, 2012

The busy, often hectic, lifestyle adopted by many people frequently does not afford them the luxury of engaging in traditional methods for meeting potential dates and mates. The Internet has spawned a plethora of dating sites, e.g., Match.com, J-Date, e-Harmony, ChristainMingles, etc., where people can search for potential partners from the comfort of their own home and on their own time 24-7-365. In addition to these Internet dating sites, there are also a variety of dating services developed by entrepreneurs who recognize the market for connecting singles with one another and have taken the role of the matchmaker to new levels.

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50 Shades of Grey: A Sex Therapist’s Perspective

Thursday, July 12th, 2012

The recent trilogy, 50 Shades of Grey by E. L. James, has taken the book world by storm with all three volumes making the NY Times best sellers list.  People around the world, especially women, have been reading these books by the millions. Why?  Because they are hot!  We’re talking smokin’ hot. Back in my day they never would have been published much less talked about in polite company. If sold, they would be done so in back rooms and sold brown paper bags.

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