Posts Tagged ‘dialogue’
Friday, February 4th, 2011
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People, especially Americans, are very awkward when it comes to their attitudes and behaviors about sexuality. We will share recipes for good cooking, but not recipes for good sex. We take cooking classes and dance lessons, as well as lessons in anything else, but when it comes to sex we are on our own to learn by trial and error. As a sex therapist I am always surprised by how uncomfortable people are with their sexuality, how little they actually know about sexuality, and how misinformed they are about various aspects of sexuality.
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Tags: awareness, communication, dialogue, intimacy, life enrichment, living consciously, Relationships, Sexuality
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Wednesday, January 19th, 2011
Sherlock Holmes, the fictional master sleuth, has often commented that there is a difference between seeing and observing. Similarly it might be said that there is a difference between hearing and listening. In this post I will be exploring the difference between hearing and listening along with the various ways people tend to listen.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, intimacy, Personal Growth, self-help
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Monday, January 17th, 2011
People commonly avoid confrontation in their personal relationships. They fear hurting the other person and putting the relationship in jeopardy. They fear losing the friendship. Rather than run the risk of damaging the friendship, people tend to suppress their feelings. They would prefer to limit contact rather than to confront a friend with their true feelings. For these people all relationships are at best tenuous.
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Tags: awareness, communication, dialogue, intimacy, living consciously, Relationships
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Wednesday, November 10th, 2010
Some people listen, while others simply wait to talk. We have all have had the experience of talking with someone who seems to be formulating their response even before we have completed our thought. We have been with folks who cannot wait to get their point of view expressed even as we are talking. They talk over us, they interrupt, or they simply glass over as we are talking. Sometimes their response is not even relevant to what we were saying. These people are more interested in what they have to say than they are in hearing what we are saying. The experience of talking with them can be both frustrating and unsatisfying.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, life enrichment, living consciously, relationship, Relationships
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Thursday, September 16th, 2010
Tags: awareness, dialogue, human connection, living consciously, mental health, Personal Growth, psychological health
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Wednesday, September 15th, 2010
I remember the days when I would receive letters from friends and kids would cherish letters from parents when they were away at school or camp. I remember keeping in touch with friends through lengthy letters describing our respective lives, thoughts, and feelings about life and the world. We would spend hours collecting our thoughts, crafting a letter, and mailing it. Then we would wait for a response. When it came, we would have a cup of coffee and read and re-read the letters. We would save the letters and read them again later in the day, savoring the virtual presence of the other person and what he or she had to say. The letters were a form of human connection. There was a depth to the letters since both parties knew the time it took to write them and then to read them. It was an intimate dialogue created on paper.
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Tags: awareness, communication, dialogue, human connection, relationship, Relationships
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Friday, September 3rd, 2010
The need to feel special is common to human beings. We want to know that we matter to others; we want to be seen. We strive to achieve some special status in the eyes of others; how we are viewed by others matters to us. One way of knowing that we are special is when people treat us differently than they treat others. When we are singled out for special treatment, given special privileges, receive special favors, we feel special.
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Tags: awareness, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, Personal Growth, psychological health, Relationships
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Saturday, August 21st, 2010
Merging Friendships (Relatives) and Business Relationships
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Tags: awareness, communication, dialogue, human connection, living consciously, Personal Growth, relationship
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Friday, August 20th, 2010
We have all heard stories of relatives not talking to each other for years or long-term friendships dissolving all because of some financial or business arrangement gone sour. As a psychologist I have been asked to consult with many families and friends where financial engagements have threatened the relationship or have created such turmoil and stress within the family that friends and families are engaged in litigation. The risks of engaging in business relationships with relatives and friends are many. The downside risk of such relationships may be greater than any upside potential financial gain. Unless these business relationships are carefully thought out, the business may jeopardize the friendship. Even when the relationship issues are carefully thought out the risk that the business relationship will damage the friendship is still high.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, intimacy, living consciously, Personal Growth, relationship
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Monday, August 16th, 2010
Do you always want solutions when you share a problem with a friend? When you discuss your concerns with a friend, do you appreciate suggestions? Are you one of those people who have a closet full of suggestions and advice just itching for a problem to solve? Do you have difficulty maintaining intimate connections and use advice as a way to feel engaged?
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