The most common complaint that I hear from couples in my practice is, “we don’t communicate well. She/he doesn’t understand me.” The problem is presented equally by men and women.
Posts Tagged ‘communication’
Tips for Better Communication
Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011Parenting Interferes With Sex Life
Sunday, April 10th, 2011
My wife and I have been fighting all night about sex. She wants me to get her more in the mood. I work all the time so it’s very hard for me to do that and have sex, but I feel as if she’s never in the mood. She never tries to have sex with me except maybe once a week and it’s always when I get off work. When we first got together we had sex all the time. Then our daughter was born. I didn’t think it would change anything since were both very sexual, but her sex drive seemed to stop and mine seemed to sky rocket. What should we do?
My Husband Is Not Attracted to Me
Sunday, March 20th, 2011
My husband is not attracted to me AT ALL. We have been together almost three years. We are both 36 years old and this is the second marriage for both of us. The first six months of our relationship was great; we had sex two or three times a week. In the last two years I think we have had sex five times. We have had sex twice in the last year. Now I am eight months pregnant. Every time I try to talk to him about our sex life, it turns into a huge argument. I am at my wits end and considering leaving him after the baby is born. He says he loves me, but is stressed out from work. Or he accuses me of only being interested in sex; he calls me a whore because I ask him for sex. I am an attractive woman and I never have had this problem with anyone in my life. Please help me!!!
Personal Growth Book Profits Go To Charities
Thursday, March 10th, 2011If Sex Is Beautiful, Why Isn’t It Discussed at the Dinner Table?
Friday, February 4th, 2011
People, especially Americans, are very awkward when it comes to their attitudes and behaviors about sexuality. We will share recipes for good cooking, but not recipes for good sex. We take cooking classes and dance lessons, as well as lessons in anything else, but when it comes to sex we are on our own to learn by trial and error. As a sex therapist I am always surprised by how uncomfortable people are with their sexuality, how little they actually know about sexuality, and how misinformed they are about various aspects of sexuality.
How Do You Listen?
Wednesday, January 19th, 2011Sherlock Holmes, the fictional master sleuth, has often commented that there is a difference between seeing and observing. Similarly it might be said that there is a difference between hearing and listening. In this post I will be exploring the difference between hearing and listening along with the various ways people tend to listen.
Confrontation Fosters Intimacy
Monday, January 17th, 2011People commonly avoid confrontation in their personal relationships. They fear hurting the other person and putting the relationship in jeopardy. They fear losing the friendship. Rather than run the risk of damaging the friendship, people tend to suppress their feelings. They would prefer to limit contact rather than to confront a friend with their true feelings. For these people all relationships are at best tenuous.
Do You Listen or Wait to Talk?
Wednesday, November 10th, 2010Some people listen, while others simply wait to talk. We have all have had the experience of talking with someone who seems to be formulating their response even before we have completed our thought. We have been with folks who cannot wait to get their point of view expressed even as we are talking. They talk over us, they interrupt, or they simply glass over as we are talking. Sometimes their response is not even relevant to what we were saying. These people are more interested in what they have to say than they are in hearing what we are saying. The experience of talking with them can be both frustrating and unsatisfying.
Integrity, Relationships, and Your Mental Health: Part 2 of 3
Friday, September 17th, 2010Faux Connection: Social Media and Texting
Wednesday, September 15th, 2010I remember the days when I would receive letters from friends and kids would cherish letters from parents when they were away at school or camp. I remember keeping in touch with friends through lengthy letters describing our respective lives, thoughts, and feelings about life and the world. We would spend hours collecting our thoughts, crafting a letter, and mailing it. Then we would wait for a response. When it came, we would have a cup of coffee and read and re-read the letters. We would save the letters and read them again later in the day, savoring the virtual presence of the other person and what he or she had to say. The letters were a form of human connection. There was a depth to the letters since both parties knew the time it took to write them and then to read them. It was an intimate dialogue created on paper.
