I recently had a phone conversation that went something like this:
Posts Tagged ‘communication’
Interrupters: me-first talkers
Sunday, January 1st, 2012What role does gossip play in your life?
Thursday, December 29th, 2011
I was talking with a patient recently who said that her mother was the person who kept her posted on family happenings. Since her mother died, she no longer feels connected with the rest of the family because her father does not share information. She realized how dependent she was on her mother for keeping her informed as to family happenings. Her father, on the other hand, is a not forthcoming about family matters. He claims that he does not like to gossip. He takes the position that if people want to know about him or others in the family, they should communicate directly with them.
Blogging can be lonely
Tuesday, October 18th, 2011
I love writing about all sorts of psychological, social, and political issues. I have written a half-dozen books and many articles.
Designing Your Marriage
Sunday, October 9th, 2011
I often see young couples, who have been married for a short period of time, lamenting that their marriage has lost its sparkle. They tell me that before they married and for about a year afterwards everything was wonderful. But then they began drifting apart, going through the motions of living together, but without passion. Sex has diminished significantly, talking has been limited, and they have little energy to be with one another at the end of the day. They lost their mojo.
When is it time to hand over the car keys?
Tuesday, September 20th, 2011
I work with quite a few senior citizens in my practice. Some of whom are octogenarians. I imagine I will be seeing quite a few more in the years to come as people live longer and often healthier lives. As teenagers these people, as most of us, looked forward to getting their driver’s license and the keys to the family car. And a parent’s major weapon to keep their kids in line was the threat to take away those precious keys. The car keys meant freedom, independence, and power. Now these adolescence are seniors in the winter of their life. And now it is their children who may have to say, “Mom (Dad) it is time for you to hand over the car keys; it is time for you to stop driving.”
Lessons from ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love’
Sunday, September 4th, 2011
I recently saw and enjoyed the movie, “Crazy, Stupid, Love“. In addition to being a delightful story with moments of romance, laughter, and pathos, I found that there was some greater insight that could be distilled if one paid attention. Many men may miss the lessons to be gleaned from this flick. It is more than a piece of fluff.
So You Think You Can Make Love?
Monday, August 22nd, 2011
The TV show, So You Think You Can Dance?, can teach us a lot about lovemaking. As we watch these young dancers perform their various routines, we admire their coordination, agility, determination, and exuberance. They inspire the viewer to want to move along with them. They may even evoke within us a desire to get up and dance.
Two Sides of Marriage: Intimacy and Practicality
Tuesday, August 16th, 2011
Recently a couple came in for counseling because their marriage was in trouble. They had been married for four years and haven’t had sexual relations in almost a year. They described their relationship as friendly, but not passionate. A little exploration revealed that he was riddled with resentment at his wife’s lack of responsibility for anything that had to do with the maintenance of their home. He did all of the cooking, shopping, errands, cleaning, etc. The only thing she did was to take care of their pet. The husband felt taken for granted. Both of them had careers, but he worked from home making him more available for household duties.
Tips for Better Communication
Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011
The most common complaint that I hear from couples in my practice is, “we don’t communicate well. She/he doesn’t understand me.” The problem is presented equally by men and women.
Parenting Interferes With Sex Life
Sunday, April 10th, 2011
My wife and I have been fighting all night about sex. She wants me to get her more in the mood. I work all the time so it’s very hard for me to do that and have sex, but I feel as if she’s never in the mood. She never tries to have sex with me except maybe once a week and it’s always when I get off work. When we first got together we had sex all the time. Then our daughter was born. I didn’t think it would change anything since were both very sexual, but her sex drive seemed to stop and mine seemed to sky rocket. What should we do?
