Archive for the ‘Sexuality’ Category
Saturday, October 29th, 2011
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Match.com, J-Date, e-Harmony, Christian Singles. These, and many more, are the portals to the wonderful and terrifying world of Internet dating. Internet dating is a part of contemporary life in the U.S. and around the world. It allows people from around the globe to meet one another virtually. Before the advent of these websites people would meet one another in clubs, bars, lounges and other venues designed for folks looking to connect with one another. In today’s world, one does not have to leave the comforts of home in order have a conversation with a stranger. One can even make visual contact through the likes of video chat, Skype, and other web based video applications.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, living consciously, Personal Growth, Relationships, Sexuality, social issues
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Sunday, September 4th, 2011
I recently saw and enjoyed the movie, “Crazy, Stupid, Love“. In addition to being a delightful story with moments of romance, laughter, and pathos, I found that there was some greater insight that could be distilled if one paid attention. Many men may miss the lessons to be gleaned from this flick. It is more than a piece of fluff.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, men and masculinity, Personal Growth, Relationships, Sexuality
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Monday, August 22nd, 2011
The TV show, So You Think You Can Dance?, can teach us a lot about lovemaking. As we watch these young dancers perform their various routines, we admire their coordination, agility, determination, and exuberance. They inspire the viewer to want to move along with them. They may even evoke within us a desire to get up and dance.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, mental health, mindfulness, Personal Growth, Relationships, self-help
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Tuesday, August 16th, 2011
Recently a couple came in for counseling because their marriage was in trouble. They had been married for four years and haven’t had sexual relations in almost a year. They described their relationship as friendly, but not passionate. A little exploration revealed that he was riddled with resentment at his wife’s lack of responsibility for anything that had to do with the maintenance of their home. He did all of the cooking, shopping, errands, cleaning, etc. The only thing she did was to take care of their pet. The husband felt taken for granted. Both of them had careers, but he worked from home making him more available for household duties.
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Tags: communication, dialogue, human connection, intimacy, life changes, Relationships, Sexuality
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Saturday, August 6th, 2011
Whether golf or sex, it is not the shaft between your legs that matters, it is the grey matter between your ears that counts. I have been a sex therapist for over four decades working with individuals and couples. The most common problem presented by men is erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature or rapid ejaculation (PE), followed by low sexual desire (LSD). Invariably these men have tried all sorts of remedies ranging from use of vasodilators, e.g., Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, to lubricants of various types, or penile injections, as well as a bunch of homeopathic remedies. Once they have tried everything else, they decide in frustration that they should seek professional help in the form of sex therapy or psychotherapy.
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Tags: intimacy, men and masculinity, psychological health, Sexuality
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Sunday, July 10th, 2011
Many of my patients have wondered why they fall in love with someone and then, after a few weeks or months, the passion that they initially felt dissipates and the relationship ends. They become cynical about the prospects of being able to maintain a long-term passionate relationship and wondering whether they will have to settle for a boring relationship. They question whether passion and romance can be sustain over the long haul.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, Personal Growth, psychological health, Relationships, Sexuality
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Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
“I never pay for sex” is a common refrain echoed by men, young and old, through the generations. A 30 year old man was telling me this week that he just signed up for a dating service at a cost of $10,000. He said, “the girls are hot! And ready for a good time.” This is a man who loves to go clubbing and enjoys being part of the “Hollywood scene.” He goes to clubs and buys rounds of Cristal champagne at $1200 or more per bottle. He spends thousands of dollars per year in the quest for the “hot girls” with the prime motive of getting them into bed. I asked him why doesn’t he just go to the nearest five-star hotel cocktail lounge and approach one of the gorgeous ladies at the bar. He said, “they are working girls (i.e., prostitutes); I never pay for sex!”
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality
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Monday, May 23rd, 2011
First we learn that Arnold and Maria are divorcing; then we find out that Arnold sired a child with the family’s long-time housekeeper. I was not surprised by the affair nor particularly shocked by his having an out of wedlock child. In fact, I assumed that he had had multiple affairs during his 25-year marriage to Maria. Nor was Ginger Rutland, author of an interesting article in the Sacramento Bee, shocked or surprised. Rutland states: I find the electorate’s demand for sexual purity from our politicians unreasonable. We insist on fantasies – perfect little families, with adoring wives, cute kids and, above all, faithfulness. When politicians fail to meet those expectations – former Sen. John Edwards, Govs. Eliot Spitzer and Mark Sanford, President Bill Clinton, the list could go on and on – we heap scorn upon them and banish them from public life, at least for a while.
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Tags: human connection, intimacy, men and masculinity, men and work
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